Burning fire! That’s what my new beginning feels like. They haven’t felt like a fresh start. There is debris and fallout. It’s messy. I feel messy and disoriented. I feel like they should be inspirational and enlightened. A golden ray of light shines down showing me the way to my perfect beginning. That thought lasts about two seconds until I realize that is crap. A crap way to look at my beginning. I accept now, after many beginnings, that they are messy. They are perfectly, messy.
Divorce, had left me crumbled. One financially crumbled, one emotionally crumbled and another one I felt both. Necessity didn’t allow me the time to look around wondering what to do. I had to get busy, building and organizing. My last divorce proved, I knew how to handle a new beginning with grace and ease.
What makes my new beginning easier to transition to? What can make your beginnings easier?Three parts and three actions. I identify three major parts of my life and three actions within each of those. I learned it from one of my coaches several years back. It has been what keeps me moving when life provides a new beginning. I do it everyday. The major parts of my life remain the same day to day. The actions within each change daily, unless I am working on a project. Then I may have the same action for a few days until it is accomplished.
My life is divided into three sections by name. Kids, career, health. It has been the same for many years. Everyday, I identify three actions within each to keep things improving. For example:
Kids- talk to Dania about college courses, help Brywn get her bike, Teach Kardyn how to do his laundry.
Career – watch online training video for lead follow up, write monthly newsletter, show houses to Chuck and Linda
Health – leg day, practice new breathing technique, write in journal.
When I divide my life into sections with three actions, I can’t help but gently keep progressing in life. Progressing with intention. Stress is minimized and I can do only what I have decided is MOST important. I find harmony.
This practice does not allow for beating ourselves up over things not accomplished. Because they just go on the list tomorrow. Some days are like that. Some things have fallen off my action plan because it wasn’t something I really wanted to do. So I deleted it. No guilt. It’s my list. I can change it so it serves the life I am working to design.
When you’re seeing the debris of your life crumbled around your feet and it seems like life is on fire. Breath and name your three parts and three actions. Then do it. Everyday. For a week and a month and six months and then a year and the year after that. You’ll look back and see your new beginning was perfectly messy and you knew how to navigate through it.
You got this!
